Staying involved as a parent is important, especially with teenagers. When you ask questions to obtain a better understanding of your teen’s social life, you show how much you care. If you aren’t always successful in getting your teen to open up, don’t give up on asking questions!
Children worry. They get scared. They have strong feelings about war, terrorism, and death. To tell them they have nothing to worry about is to ask them to numb their feelings, push them down, and pretend they don’t exist. In emotional times, children need support. They need adults in their lives who help them work through their feelings in safe ways.
Teenage years can be tough. Teenagers are old enough to recognize difficult situations, but too immature to always deal with them effectively. Parents can help by providing resources that teach teens to cope with stress. This can be a challenge to parents during these trying years, but this is the time when your teen needs to know that you really love them no matter what. Even if they appear to shun your affection, they really want and appreciate it.
Divorce does not have to be a devastating end to your family. It marks the beginning of a new family for you and your children. Focus on creating a new life together. Show your children how to divorce gracefully by eliminating the seven worst things you can say to them during a divorce. Continue reading
Teens experience a lot of worries and anxieties on the best of days, and these feelings will be intensified when they hear about your divorce. Also, you don’t want them to go completely the other way and shut down emotionally as a way of protecting themselves. Talking will allow them to process their feelings and put their thoughts into some kind of context that makes sense. Continue reading
Troubling periods in our lives can always be fruitful bonding opportunities. Such experiences can make us grateful for what we have. They can open our eyes to the beauties of small moments that we may normally miss. Boys instinctively lean towards their fathers when life feels uncertain. Continue reading
Without being able to relate the feeling to any kind of previous experience, a teenager can be overwhelmed by depression. It may become impossible to see any future beyond its dim and gloomy shadow. This is a place where we as parents can share some of our own experience as a way of bridging the gulf. Continue reading
Communicative support is a critical developmental factor that adds to the well-being of all children, but it is especially important during the sometimes turbulent teenage years. Teens need their parents to develop the ability to support them with compassion and guide them with understanding. Continue reading
Compared to teens who have frequent family dinners (five to seven per week), those who have infrequent family dinners (fewer than three per week) are almost four times likelier to use tobacco; more than twice as likely to use alcohol; two-and-a-half times likelier to use marijuana; and almost four times likelier to say they expect to try drugs in the future. Continue reading
Words of praise are powerful and can be used to bring out the best in your child. Children love nothing more than the approval of their parents, so let them know just how grateful and pleased you are when they behave in a desirable way.